We have all known people who were in sin and yet couldn’t seem to see it. This seems especially common in conflict situations.
I don’t want to be like that.
Here are some suggestions to help protect you from this kind of blindness:
1. Make sure you listen to people who are different than you. Encourage others to share with you how they would do things differently.
2. If someone is reacting to you in a way that seems out of character, at least ask whether you might be part of the problem.
3. When someone tells you they think you are wrong, take some time to evaluate whether they may be right even if you don’t think they are as smart as you.
4. Watch out for anger. Anger is a particularly blinding emotion.
5. Pray and pray again that God would make you aware of the sins and mistakes you do not see.
6. When someone agrees with you, consider whether it is because you are right or they are your fan or perhaps their temperament is very similar to yours instead of the fact that you are actually right.
7. Have friends.
8. Try to get outside yourself and look at the way you are acting. Stretch yourself to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Ask the question and seriously consider, how could I be seeing this wrong? What other possible explanations could there be for what is happening other than the one I am telling myself?
9. Keep reminding yourself that there is something much more important than other people thinking you are right.
10. Understand that if you can not come up with at least one way you were in the wrong, it might be possible that you are more wrong than you realize.
I like them all but nr 10, will not let you pass, ever.